Eleven Months Old

Getting naughtier, cuter and so very lovable. He tugs at our feet and our hearts to get our attention and for us to pick him up and carry him. Very impatient and very greedy when it comes to food!!! Simply cannot keep quiet when we're eating and he's not.

We love you anyway.

Me So So Very Busy

I am so deprived of blogging!!! I miss sharing my life with you all.

2nd week into my new job, busy as hell. I mean REALLY busy. I don't even have time to pee. Really. Since the day I joined, I have not yet had the time/chance to visit the toilet here. Because I have no time to drink water, thus nothing to pee.

This place is exciting and terribly fast paced. But I am loving every minute of it up till now. But very stressed out as well. Think I have never worked so hard and felt so stressed ever in my life! But my colleagues are a totally different thing though.

Anyway, this entry is posted at the expense of my 20 minute lunch time I usually spend, and now, I am only left with 15 minutes. Promise to check in real soon yeah???

Love you all!!

New Start Yet Once Again

I started on my new job todaywith much anticipation and excitement. Well as usual, the first day is always the "getting to know you" day. My PC is not set up yet, am sitting at a temporary desk at the moment and I even had problems getting into the office.

You see, the office uses the fingerprint thingy which scans your fingerprint as a form of identification to allow entry. And as you guys would know, my nails are freaking long half the time and when I scan my finger tips for the sample, what's registered is not my fingerprints but rather slightly below near the last joint of my finger. Well, if you know what I meant cos my nails prevented me from sticking my finger all the way in when I scanned the sample to be stored in the system.

So here comes the problem, I will have problems scanning my "fingerprint" once my nails grow longer or gets shorter than this length!! Alamak!! How to make sure I get the right positioning then?? Why am I so stupid as to get myself into this problem? But the good thing is..... no more passes to worry about anymore!! Yippee!!

Will promise to find more time to update. Don't abandon me yeah?!?! Love you all!!

Missing You

Yes, 2 more days and I will be out of this company. Can't wait!!!

Was preparing my handover list today when i realised I didn't have much to handover. OMG!! Does that mean that I haven't been contributing much for the past 3 months? Hahaha..... I wss trying hard to expand my points so as to make the list look slightly better. But not much help though.

Hubby is in reservist for these 2 weeks and I am so missing him. But not bad a change to have the whole bed to yourself and he's not around to fight over the blanket with me in the middle of the night. Not around for me to nag him to bathe, not drink coffee, sleep and wake up. Not around to argue with me over pointless stuff, not around to take ciggies from me when he runs out and not around to keep asking me to eat!!

But then, he's also not around to fetch me home from work everyday, not around when I want to talk to him about some pointless stuff, not around for me to kiss/bite/hit, not around to wake me up from bed with his goodbye kiss and not around to tuck Yun Yi into bed.

Sigh.... I think I prefer you to be constantly around in my life. I miss you.

Yoga? No Problem!!

I have this feeling Yun Yi will have no problems taking up yoga classes. Look.......



I mean, just look at her. This is how she watches TV in the living room!! And she tells me it's comfortable? Alamak!! I really don't understand leh.......

Dancing's King's First Dip

Brought the kids to the swimming pool this morning and it was Yong Ye's first dip into the pool too!!



He started crying initially when I put him into the water. But after about 10 minutes, he was totally enjoying himself! That's my boy!!

But too bad, he still hates the sitting float thing I bought for him. Waste my money........

Oh, and Yong Ye has a new thing to hao lian about.



He will shake his butt to whenever you ask him to dance dance or he hears music. Soooooo cute I tell you!! Shake your bom boms!!

A Promise

Today, I made a promise to myself. I made a promise to achieve a goal which has yet to be achieves all these years.

One year from today, I shall look back at this post and be proud of myself that I have done it. It's not easy and the goal is far. But I hope I can do it. Really. It will do me good in many ways and many aspects of my life.

Support me. I will try my best.

The Five Love Languages

Did all of you know that there are 5 love languages which is used to express our love for our partner? Was watching a TV program some nights back and this was briefly discussed. It talked about ways to strengthen a relationship and also the ways to show your love.


1) Words Of Affirmation

We're not talking about telling each other lots of "I Love You" everyday. Words of affirmation here refers to verbal compliments as well as verbal encouragement.

Verbal compliments would of course refer to simple and sincere compliments to your partnes. Simple things such as "you look good in that outfit" or "nice haircut" goes a long way. Compliments makes someone feel good and loved. It reassures us that whatever effort put in to do something is actually noticed by you.

Verbal enouragement is another part of this language. Some examples of verbal encouragement would be: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation”, offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.


2) Quality Time

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your partner. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good partner will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their partner they are truly listening. Many partners don’t expect you to solve their problems. They just simply need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your partner, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your partner.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many partners feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.

Whether it’s sitting on the sofa and having a brief conversation or playing together in a game of bowling, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.


3) Receiving Gifts

Some partners respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

Gifts as an expression of love and devotion is not in any way measured by the price of the item. Expensive or cheap, delicate or functional and common or rare is more than often overlooked. It's the thought that counts here, not the value.


4) Acts of Service

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A partner who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both partners to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.


5) Physical Touch

Many partners feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a partner who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many partners feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. It is important to learn how your partner speaks the physical touch language. It’s important to learn how your partner responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember than this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.


Everyone places different emphasis on the five love languages. What's important to me might not be as important to you. And between partners, they might not even have the same emphasis. But the important thing is to show your love and affection in that language which your partner understands and appreciates. Not a language whcih you like or feel comfortable in. This is the core reason why so many couples end up feeling resentful of each other. Husband shows wife he cares by buying her gifts but the wife wants more quality time together. Or wife shows acts of service but hsband prefers more physical touch.

Love me the way I want to be loved. In a relationship, all five languages must be present but it's a matter of importance and emphasis. When a balance is struck, harmony is born.

Trust

I am finding it so hard to trust people.

It's so scary how fake some people can be infront of you. It's the little tell tale signs which I sometimes choose to ignore. I choose to give the benefit of doubt. It's so hard when you're being accused and suspected when you are feeling the exact same way towards the person in question.

A woman's instinct is incredibly accurate. She might not know what exactly is going on, but she can almost definitely smell a rat. Sometimes it's not what you have done, or not. It just needs the intention to break the trust that has been built up through time.

You are trying to hide and conceal. Don't try to hide because your actions are pointing me towards that direction. Intentions are killers. The intention to kill is almost as guilty as murder. Even though no specific crime is committed, the intention is there and that's all it takes to be convicted.

Why can't we all be truthful to the people around us? Why are our lives filled with lies and more lies? Can we not be open to each other about what we do and how we think? Has the relationship among people became so complicated that we are all having a mask on our face when we face the world.

I hate all of you who deceive and hide. I do not know now but I believe I will soon enough. The question has been asked and the answer is no. Don't let the truth prove that answer wrong one day. Don't let that day come, because when it does, I will not be the one that's exposed. Because I do not have a mask on. You do and you know it.